For my paper I have found a lot of really great sources to support what I am talking about. They have also been helpful because after reading them, they have given me new ideas about what to write about and things I should add into my paper.
The first source I am going to use I talked about a little already in my last blog. The source is a book I found at MU Ellis Library. It is written by Helen Fisher and it is called, Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Love. This book is all about why we love. She gives two different explanations for why we love. One is a biological reason, and the other one is a physiological reason. For the biological reason, Helen explains how we have different chemicals in our brain.
One chemical in particular that is important to making us want to love is serotonin, that when released make us feel happy. According to Helen, when we are in love, serotonin is released which in turn will make us happy to be in love and want to stay with the person we are with. We are put into a state of bliss that makes us enjoy being with our partners. Now of course this feeling will only arise if you have fun with your significant other and truly enjoy being around them. There are relationships where people don’t feel this way to start with towards their partner, so the serotonin release won’t occur for these certain people.
For the physiological reason for why to love, Helen says we love because it is what our ancestors did.She theorizes that our ancestors fell in love, first out of companionship; they longed to have someone to care for. They found a partner to add security and support in their life. This partnership turned into love, and how could it not? They were spending their entire lives together, telling all of their daily trials and worries to this one person. The ritual of falling in love has been going on for thousands of years and is still continuing to this day.
I will use this book to support the first part of my research question, why do we love. I can break down that argument into 3 different parts.One, we love because of biological reasons, such as serotonin release and how our brain is built to receive and interpret signals of love. Why would our brain make us capable to understand and feel love if we were not meant to? The structure almost tells us that we are meant to love.
Two, we love because of physiological reason, like the theory about our ancestors fell in love. Our ancestors fell in love in order to help themselves survive, and since it worked pretty well for them, it is continued to help us survive now.
And lastly I will talk about the fairy tale dream that we all grew up wanting to come true. We all want to fall in love and get married to an amazing person how fits with us just right. I will also talk about how hard that can be but despite all of the difficulties, we still face the hardships and try to find a person we can spend the rest of our lives with.
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